Cherish Your Spouse

I remember the day when my wife and I were married. It was a cold winter day many years ago in downtown Salt Lake City. I will never forget some of the counsel that the person who officiated our wedding gave to me. He spent most of his time telling me how I needed to treat my wife.

He told me that I needed to treat her like a queen. He told me to love and adore her. He told me to put her on a pedestal. I have reflected upon his wise counsel many times over the years. I will be eternally grateful for that counsel. I have tried to the best of my ability to do exactly what he told me to do.

What has doing that done for my relationship with my sweet wife? I love her more today than I did 24 years ago when we were married. I am a better man because of her. I consider her my best friend. I have come to start to see her, as I am sure that the Lord sees her.

I marvel each day at her integrity. I marvel at how great she is with our children. I marvel at how she has become an accomplished businesswoman. I think of how much I don’t deserve her and how I need to always strive to be the best I can so be deserving of her unconditional love of me.

I recognize she is not perfect, but neither am I. I have come to choose to focus on her good qualities, which I feel are extensive. I have made up my mind that I am willing to serve her expecting less in return.

These are the main qualities of cherishing your spouse. First, you focus more on your spouse’s strengths than weakness. Second, you serve them being willing to give more than you expect to receive back. Third, you are thankful for how you have been blessed by having them in your life.

These three things are more about mindset than anything else. Take out a piece of paper right now. Take two minutes and write down between five and ten things about your spouse that you are grateful for. Next, take two more minutes and think of five to ten things that you can do over the next week for your spouse that will make their life easier and demonstrate to them that you love them. Third, follow through with your to do list and notice how you feel in a week.

How did this make you feel towards your spouse? How did doing this make you feel about yourself? Finally, what impact did this have on your children as they noticed you performing these acts of kindness towards each other?

Now go forward and cherish each other! Allow yourselves the opportunity and privilege to proactively become thank for each other and to serve each other! In other words, allow yourself to cherish each other!

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