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The need for a happy marriage has never been greater. Also, the world today can be a very intimidating place. There is a great emphasis placed on self and drawing attention to one's self. Look at the celebrations some athletes go through when they make a play. A team can be getting walloped and an athlete on the losing team will make a good play and the jump up and down, dance and shake like they just won a million dollars. It is all about me and look at me. Some have the idea that one always has to win and to always be right. Many people have become so competitive. When I say competitive, I don’t mean competitive in the sense that I want to win. I mean competitive in the sense that I am better than you. There is no place for competition in a happy marriage. Unfortunately, some of this attitude finds it’s way into many marriages. Some spouses feel they have to always be right, or that they have to one up each other. These marriages typically do not provide a sense of joy and fulfillment to those in the marriage. Many of these marriages wind up in divorce. What separates these marriages from those marriages where two people remain in love with each other? The answer is simple. Couples in successful marriages do not want to do anything that would make their spouse look bad or feel bad about themselves. Couples in successful marriages understand the principle of service to each other. They look for ways to do good for each other without any expectation of anything in return. Doing good for someone for no other reason than to serve strengthens love for both people. The person doing good ncreases in love for the other because they know it will make the other one happy. The one receiving the act of kindness feels greater love for the other person because they are made to feel important. Who doesn’t feel good when kind things are done for them? The key is to expect nothing in return. Doing good for the sake of doing good will allow you to strengthen your bonds of love. It will leave you free from the angst of trying to keep score. Nobody wins when couples start keeping score. The problem with keeping score is that you will start to resent the other person if you feel they aren’t doing enough. You will become angry and start with holding affection. Nothing good comes from this. What if your spouse is not inclined to return your acts of kindness? Love them even more expecting nothing in return. What if that doesn’t work? Love them even more. Just love them until they can’t help but return your affection. Most people will respond positively if you love them unconditionally. Most people are good people and will return love when shown love. Go forward and serve your spouse! Feel the joy that comes from loving them unconditionally! You decide that you will be the one that makes the first move in your marriage. You decide that you will be the one to make things better! Have A Great Story About This Topic?Do you have a great story or thoughts about this? Share it! Return from Happy Marriage 3 to Relationship Blogs
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