Want a Happy Marriage? Make Your Marriage a Priority. Learn How!
A Happy Marriage is One Where Both People Are 100% Committed to Each Other Happiness is one of the age-old pursuits of man; everyone wants to be happy.Happiness can increase our capacity to love, and it is love that will bring us fulfillment in life. Making one’s marriage a priority is therefore extremely important. It makes sense then that one should strive to make one’s marriage right at the top of the list of things to keep strong. A strong marriage makes one happier and helps to raise well-adjusted children who are secure with themselves and have the ability to trust because they have grown up surrounded by love. Everyone benefits when Mom and Dad are head over heels in love with each other. Here are three key concepts for success: 1. Make measurable goals together so you can track progress.2. Total commitment is needed in order to have a successful marriage. This means that both of you agree to be responsible for each other’s mental, physical, and financial health. Make Measurable Goals Solutions for a happy marriage can be found if both parties are committed to making the marriage work. Measurable, tangible goals enable people to know that their relationship is moving forward. It builds hope and then faith can follow. Once a person has hope and faith, he or she can then move forward with confidence they can overcome any problem. Tangible objectives allow progress to become measurable. Tasks that can be tracked and measured cannot be emphasized enough. Both people need to define how they intend to track the progress they enjoy together as they work on strengthening their relationship. Start by taking an honest look at those areas that need improvement. This needs to be done in a non-confrontational manner and should not be used as an opportunity for individuals to attack each other personally. This will be counterproductive and will do more harm than good. If both of you have a hard time telling each other daily that you love each other, then make a goal that each morning that you will say it. If doing thoughtful acts of kindness is an area for improvement, then set a goal to do something nice for each other each day. It doesn’t have to be grand and spectacular. It can be something as simple as doing something without being asked or doing something for the other person they would not expect. This could be doing housework, shining someone’s shoes, writing an ‘I Love You’ note and putting it in the other person’s purse or wallet. Use your imagination here. You know your spouse and what small acts of kindness will mean the most to them. Next find some way to track your progress. It may mean buying a notebook and recording what you did during the day. This might sound foreign to some, but it serves many purposes. You can then take this a step further and write down how you felt when you did these things, as well as the other person’s reaction to them. First, following these steps allows you to measure your success. Second, it allows you to record how all of this makes you feel as you strive to make your spouse happy; it allows you to keep a record of your progress as a human being. Third, when times are difficult, you can go back and read about your successes. It will give you courage as you see how you dealt with certain situations and give you confidence to continue trying. It also allows you to re-experience all of those feelings you originally felt and re-live them anew. It can be a glorious experience, and it serves to remind you why you love this other person so much.
Total Commitment If you want a happy marriage, then become responsible for making the other person happy and helping them feel good about themselves. How does a father feel about himself when his wife continually builds him up in the eyes of their children? How does a mother in a family feel when her husband always tells her how much he loves her and makes sure their children know he loves her? That comes from service to the other person, and it requires constant work and practice until it becomes second nature. When both people work hard for a successful marriage, they find the benefits far outweigh the price paid for peace and harmony. It means sometimes one has to bite their tongue and swallow their pride. It means overlooking small and many times unimportant idiosyncrasies. It means asking yourself, “Would I rather be happy or right?” Sometimes being right comes at the expense of belittling others and making them feel inferior. I have seen too many couples fight and argue over small, trivial things that really don’t matter a hill of beans. Do you want to be happy or right? If you want to have a successful, happy marriage, and to experience love on a scale that you never thought possible, then be willing to commit yourself entirely to your marriage and give it everything you have. Holding back will not get you to the major league level of love. Holding back will guarantee that you are forever stuck in the minor leagues, knowing you are missing out. Resolve right now you want a happy marriage. Resolve right now that you want more. Resolve right now that you want to play in the major leagues of love. Resolve that you are willing to sacrifice for love. Resolve you will burn your ships so you are truly committed to loving this other person. Resolve that you want to give and receive love on a level that will make life a glorious experience and each day another day that you look forward to living. I promise you that if both of you are willing to do this, you will experience the joy, not just pleasure, but the true joy of loving and being loved by another person. Have A Great Story About or Advice on How to Make Your Marriage a Priority?How do you make your marriage a priority? Share with us your tips and stories! Return from Happy Marriage Priority to Marriage Problems Stumbling Blocks
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