Have a Healthy Relationship in Your Marriage. Learn the Differences Between Men and Women.
A healthy relationship can be achieved by gaining a better understanding of the differences men and women. A basic knowledge of the three areas of importance will empower you to have a more successful marriage. It will allow you to better understand why they do what they do. So what are these three areas? They are how men and women bond, how men and women view sex, and how men and women like to be treated. Healthy Relationship Concept 1: How Do Men and Women Bond? Men and women bond very differently. Knowing this puts you in charge in your marriage and will allow you to have a healthy relationship. Your relationship will be a healthy relationship in the sense that the two of you love each other and treat each other with love. If you are a man, knowing how to bond with your wife will allow you to connect with her and increase the love that she has for you. As your wife grows to love you more, you will in turn love her more. The same goes for women. If you as a woman understand how men bond, you will be able to get closer to your husband. As you grow closer the love you have for each other will increase. How do men bond? Typically, men don’t bond by sharing feelings or emotions. It does not mean that men can’t share feelings, it is something that does not come easily to them. Men bond by sharing experiences. For instance, men can go to a sporting event, yell and cheer for their team and not say more than 20 words to each other the entire time. Whether or not their team wins or loses those men will have bonded because they were there together enjoying the game. That is how men bond. They bond by sharing experiences together. Women on the other hand, bond by sharing their feelings. It makes them happy to be able to share what is on their mind and what they feel inside. Women feel good about themselves as they are able to share what they feel and have others share with them how they feel. What does this mean for men? It means that knowing that your wife bonds by sharing feelings will allow the two of you to grow closer together. By taking time to listen to your wife you validate her. You let her know that she is important and that you value her as a person. Sharing your feelings says to her that you trust her. You tell her that you view her as a friend and a confidante. What does this mean for women? It means that knowing your husband bonds by sharing experiences will allow you to spend time with him and just enjoy his company. He will love you for it. He will appreciate you for understanding him. What does this in turn mean for both of you? It means learning to compromise. Men need to understand that they must be willing to share their feelings more than they do. It does not mean abandoning your manhood. It means you understand that you demonstrate to your wife you love her by listening and sharing. Women need to understand that their husbands can and should be willing to share and listen. Women also need to understand that most men will never be as sharing and open up as their best friend or their sister. Knowing this information will allow you to know what you need to do in order to bond and grow closer together. The result will be a healthy relationship.
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This has always been a hot topic between men and women. Men are wired very differently than women when it comes to sex. Men have a very strong sex drive. This desire is so strong that most men think about sex frequently. Men think about sex much more than women do. One of the reasons men spend so much time thinking about and seeking sex is because sex is a tremendous energy release. These feelings in turn produce feelings of euphoria and can serve as a way for a man to relieve tension in his life. Consequently, men think about sex often, and it is a very important factor in a man being a man. With that being said, sex consists of much more than pleasure, energy, and passion. Most men subconsciously view sex as the ultimate form of acceptance and love from a woman. This should explain why men have such a hard time when they are told ‘no’ by their mates; they have linked sex with love and acceptance. Why? It occurs because men have been taught from birth that they need to be the pursuers in relationships, and they feel it is up to them to initiate this form of intimate behavior. Throw on top of this the fact that men do not communicate well, and therefore, most men don’t have much else to gage their self-worth against in the eyes of their wives. Women on the other hand have a much different view of sex. Sex is about intimacy for a woman. It is about physical and emotional intimacy. They are both interconnected and both require giving by both parties. First, let’s discuss emotional intimacy. Women enjoy sharing their feelings. Women bond by sharing feelings. It means a tremendous amount to a woman for her mate to share his feelings with her; it makes her happy. It helps her to feel good about herself. Men need to realize that sharing their hopes and dreams with their wives doesn’t somehow rob them of their manhood. In effect women find this very sexy. The average man will find that his sex life with his wife will improve immensely the more he opens up to her emotionally. Why is that? It is because the message sent to her is that you trust her. It says you value her opinion of your innermost thoughts. You respect her enough to share these things with her, and you are letting her in emotionally. A woman who receives this message will in turn feel that she can open up to her spouse. Sex is a very emotional thing for a woman. A woman is opening herself up emotionally and physically to a man during sex. The man literally enters inside her, and this is a very vulnerable time for a woman emotionally; she is giving herself to a man in every sense of the word. In addition, when a woman is intimate with a man, she receives the very being of that man, or his very core, soul, and fundamental nature, by how he treats her during the sexual experience. As a result, sex is much more than validation or an energy release to a woman. A man can be ready to go at the drop of a hat and have an enjoyable experience, but a woman needs more time to ready herself for sex. A woman needs to be romanced, and needs foreplay in order to fully enjoy the experience. Both men and women need to consider that they will need to adjust their expectations of sex during their relationship. Men need to understand that they will not always have sex when they would like, and women need to understand that there may be times when they should say yes even if they aren’t quite in the mood. Men need validation, and women weren’t put on the earth solely for giving men pleasure. A happy middle ground will help ensure that a husband and wife have a good relationship on all levels. A couple can’t have a good marriage without a satisfying sexual relationship. Sex shouldn’t be the foundation of the relationship, but a marriage will fail without a healthy sex life. Use this knowledge about sex to have a healthy relationship with your spouse. Healthy Relationship Concept 3: How Do Men and Women Prefer to be Treated? Men and women have different needs. Knowing the difference between the needs of men and women will aid in having a healthy relationship. There are several, but we’re going to focus on just a couple. First, men have a strong need to know that they make their wives happy. Men will do almost anything to please their spouse! Men have done many great things while pursuing the love of a woman. There is no stronger motivating factor for a man than the intense desire to please the woman he loves. I know this from my own experience and observing the lives of others. Most of the successful men I have ever met were motivated by the intense desire to please the women in their lives. These men become more than they ever thought possible because of the unconditional love of a special woman. Women on the other hand want to know that they are loved and adored. The average woman wants to be worshipped, adored, and noticed by the man in her life. She wants to know that she is loved. The man who does this is the man who will motivate her to be all that she can be. Women flourish when they know their husbands love them unconditionally. Women want to know that, no matter what happens, they are loved and will be loved. This security allows a woman to be her true self. It allows her to fully enjoy life and bask in her own femininity. Many women have a deep down fear their men will trade them in for a better model. The highest compliment a man can pay to a woman is to make her the focus of his life. A real man will never give his spouse any reason to doubt his love for her. Adding the healthy relationship concept of needs to your marriage tool kit, will help ensure that the two of you will always have a healthy relationship. Return from Healthy Relationship/Understanding Men and Women to Free Relationship Advice Building Blocks
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