A Great Love Relationship is One Where People Say I Love You
Everyone wants to have a great love relationship with their spouse. All of us need some sort of assurance that we are loved. Assurance and reaffirmation are very important in all aspects of life. All of us need feedback in order to know where we are and how we are doing. This is how we grow. It is how we get better. It is how we improve. It also provides us with stability and helps us to have the confidence we need to go forward. It allows us to make any course corrections in our lives that need to be made. The same applies to telling your spouse you love them. It allows you to give of yourself and helps you to strengthen your commitment. Just saying ‘I love you’, and meaning it, can have a powerful impact on your mind. Your mind processes information. Saying it out loud tells your mind it must be so, and it allows your mind to look for validation. Your mind will subconsciously provide you with evidence to support the fact you love your spouse. Your mind will provide you with data such as how your spouse interacts with the kids, how they walk, how they talk, how they make you feel, the good things that they do for you, and so on and so on. The same applies to ‘I hate you’. If you say it enough times, your mind, being the computer it is, will find evidence to support what it is being fed. You need to hear them in order to have a great love relationship. Saying “I love you,” will reinforce the love you do have, but it also helps your spouse to know you do indeed love them. These are important words, and your spouse needs to hear them each and every day. It also serves to give knowledge to your spouse and reinforce to your subconscious mind that you do love each other. It validates that you do indeed feel the way you do about each other. It helps to validate your love relationship. Benefits of Saying I Love You Matters People in a love relationship generally respond very positively to overtures of love and affection. All of us want to know there are people out there who love us and who are concerned for our well-being. Everyone wants and needs to hear they are loved. No one is exempt. Saying ‘I love you’ reaffirms your love. It reassures. It provides confidence to your spouse knowing those close to them love and care for them. It provides an opportunity to re-commit yourself to your spouse. It can also be cleansing. The expression of love to one another allows you to focus on others and to lose yourself in their service. The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in loving service to others. Nowhere is this principle truer than within the love relationship you have as a husband or wife. One of the strongest benefits of marriage is the idea that you will always be there for each other. Marriage is a legally binding contract wherein you publicly commit that you will do all you can do to provide for each other and make each other happy. How to Eliminate the Top Three Obstacles to I Love You Selfishness will keep you from incorporating ‘I love you’ into your marriage. It can have a negative impact on your love relationship. Pride and apathy are the other two biggies. Selfishness is almost always at the heart of marital problems. When people focus only on themselves, everyone around them suffers. Selfishness has to be avoided. Pride and apathy are the other two biggies. Selfishness is almost always at the heart of marital problems. When people focus only on themselves, everyone around them suffers. Selfishness has to be avoided.Selfishness does not bring joy and happiness; it destroys joy and happiness. Joy and happiness comes when you turn your focus towards lifting, helping and building others. In order to be successful in your relationships with others, you need to be willing to look beyond yourself. You have to be willing to put yourself in the position of the other person. Then and only then can you truly become effective in your quest to become happier in your marriage. Pride is a biggie. There is no room for pride when it comes to saying ‘I love you’. Don’t let your pride withhold the love your spouse is entitled to. You both took an oath when you married to make each other happy. You promised you would be responsible for each other’s happiness and well-being. Are you a person of honor and character? An honorable person will do everything in their power to honor and abide by their promises. Do you take seriously the reputation you have to follow through with what you commit to? If you do, then swallow your pride and give your spouse the love you promised them. There is no excuse. Only a person who lacks honor would allow pride to stand in the way of keeping a commitment. Finally, apathy can become an obstacle if you let it. Apathy says you don’t care. I am amazed at how many apathetic people there are. Sometimes one spouse is just a lot of work, has had fidelity issues, or has hurt the other spouse just one time too many times, and so as a coping mechanism their partner simply stops caring. The question then becomes, “What do you hope to get out the relationship?” If you are hoping to salvage the relationship, then I would suggest the two of you get counseling and try to repair any damage that may have been done. What about those couples who simply stopped caring as time went on, not because something great big has happened, but because they simply grew apart? I can tell you right now why they grew apart, and why they are apathetic now. They don’t say ‘I love you’. They focus too much on the kids. They focus too much on work or the things of the world. They don’t pray together. They don’t have date night. They stopped courting. They stopped doing small acts of kindness every day without being asked. In other words, they stopped doing most of the things they did when they were courting which helped them to fall in love. If you don’t want apathy in your marriage, then don’t act apathetic. Just start doing the things you did when the two of you were courting and fell in love, and you will fall in love again. Then keep doing them so that you stay in love. If you do these things, apathy will never be an issue in your marriage. Unselfishness will eliminate selfishness, pride and apathy. Unselfishness will improve your love relationship. It allows you to concentrate on each other. Go ahead and resolve that before you go to bed this evening that you will look at your spouse in the eye and tell them you love them. For that matter, go tell them right now. Don’t wait. The person you share your life with is part of you. The two of you are a team, and as part of a team you are both responsible for the success of the team. So with success in mind, tell your spouse you love them. Tell them you are glad you married them. Tell them you are thankful for them and give them two reasons why your life has been blessed for having them in it. Saying I Love YouWhat are your thoughts on saying I love you to your spouse? Do you have a story you would like to share? Share it! Return from Love Relationship I Love You to Dialed In Love Advice
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