Stable relationships are trusting relationships. You must have trust in relationships, especially your marriage. Where there is trust, there is love.
Trust is built as two people show that they are trust worthy. You build trust first by what you say and then by what you do. Your actions are a reflection of what you think and what type of person you really are. Both of you need to focus on two specific areas to develop trust.
1. Honesty
Honesty means that you tell the truth. You do not lie. You always are honest about where you go, with whom you spend your time, and how you spend your money. Lie about any of these things and you will very quickly create very serious problems in your marriage. For instance, if you are not honest about where you go and with whom, your spouse will start to think you are involved in something you shouldn’t be.
If you are not honest about money, your spouse may think that you may have some sort of a problem such as drugs or gambling. Always be up front with your spouse.
Honesty does not stop there. An honest person is also honest with himself or herself. You have to be able to face the truth about your strengths and weaknesses. Being honest about your weaknesses requires a great deal of strength and character. It is never easy to admit that you have areas that need work.
You cannot fix that which you cannot or will not see. As a result, learn to be honest with yourself about yourself.
2. Integrity
Integrity is a key element of trust in a relationship. This means doing what you say you are going to do. It starts with the small things. If you say you will take out the trash, then take out the trash. If you say you will be home at a certain time, then be home on time.
When you promise to be faithful, then do not put yourself in a position where you may cheat.
Part of integrity is dependability. Can your spouse depend on you? If you commit to do something, do you follow through?
Finally, trust in relationships should be motivated by love. You should want to be honest and trust worthy because you do not want to hurt your spouse. Remember, what you do to demonstrate your trust worthiness is an outward reflection of the love and commitment you feel towards your spouse.